Monday, January 26, 2009

snuggle

Recently my four year old has been asking me to snuggle A LOT... I've been finding myself frustrated...not because I don't want to snuggle with him... but because I don't feel I have the time to oblige every snuggle request. (definition of snuggle: sit still and hold them) Its funny, that I recently stumbled across this picture of Max and I when he was two... Katy was Lucy's current age... and I was able to fit in MUCH more snuggle time. Infact, I snuggled him more because I didn't want him to feel less important because Katy had so many needs being a baby. It occurred to me when I saw this picture that maybe hes asking to snuggle so much because he isn't getting the attention that he needs since he has two younger sisters that do take up a lot of my attention and affection.

What I'm thinking that I will try to do...is to make "special Max and Mommy" time at least once a day... time where Max and I can spend without the girls interrupting us. Any suggestions for what Max and I can do together to make our time really special?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

You know sweetie, sometimes they are just going through a "needy" time. It would happen anyway--even if he was an only child. You can let yourself off the guilt hook.

Madeline said...

What sweet photo. My mom says that my little sister was very into snuggling, so in the morning she would just sit and snuggle with her for 10 or 15 minutes before the day got started. Like your mom says though, it's nothing to feel guilty about.

Amber said...

Oh poor little guy is missing his mummy time. Maybe it is just a time when he feels he needs you a bit more. I understand you end up giving the little ones so much and the bigger ones miss out a little bit. What a sweet mummy to be so aware of your childs feelings...xx

Anonymous said...

You know, my little guy is going through that too (3yrs. old w/ a 20mos. sister to share Mommy with while my 4yr.old is in Kinder)...so, instead of having them nap at the same time in the middle of the day, I've been taking my daughter to her bed for naptime btwn 30min. to an hour earlier. That gives my little guy and I some time for ourselves before he starts his nap. It's working well and he seems much happier all day!